Are You as REAL as you think?
Re·al [ree-uhl, reel] genuine; not counterfeit, artificial, or imitation; authentic. Fake [feyk] something specious, deceptive, or fraudulent. Everybody wants to be considered real or self proclaim that they are, and no one wants to be bashed for being fake. But how do you distinguish between the two? How do you really know if someone is real or fake? Recently I discovered that the definitions I had of what makes someone real and how to be able to tell a real individual were all wrong. I always thought that if you were straight up blunt with people, saying things others wouldn’t say, and could tell someone about themselves in the blink of an eye. Oh you’re real! Uhh WRONG. When I asked the question on my twitter what goes along with being real. A fellow blogger at reddlipstick.blogspot.com said something that really got me thinking, Loyalty. Loyalty plays such a large part in being real because so many people are called faked because another party feels as though they haven’t been loyal to them in a sense. Being real starts with being honest with yourself and using that judgment to decide how you deal with others. Sometimes you have to check yourself and be like okay, I’m trying to justify this but I know I’m wrong. I know I’m doing some sneaky stuff and it’s not right because I know so-in-so would feel a certain way about it. The common misconception is being real has to do with you and only you, no you’re being real with yourself so that you can be real with others. It’s the whole point. Anyone can get belligerent, mean, rude, or loud. But not everyone can admit their mistakes, set aside their own wants for a friend, or give someone they’re friends with the benefit of the doubt before judging or talking about them. Not everyone can go to a person and call them out on something they are doing wrong because they genuinely care about that individual. Being real is being selfless, knowing that even though they might get mad, you may not get what you want every time, or you might hurt a few feelings, you are doing it for a purpose, not just to be a bitch, or be spiteful or for personal gain. So think about it, are you really as REAL as you think? Or are you sitting around with an ignorant definition of what real is? I’m a true believer of karma and “you are the company you keep” so if you’re always surrounded by people who are faking on you, doing trifling stuff behind your back, or you find you can trust no one. You might want to evaluate yourself and your own actions. Treat people the way you want to be treated it’s the oldest philosophy in the book. Doing what’s real is doing what’s right. Now, how would you classify yourself? Real? Or do you still have some work to do? Just something to think about…..
2 comments
i think being real is about being true to yurself & knowing who yu are as a person , then yu wont have to perpetrate .. if yur komfortable with yurself yu wont feel a need to validate others or look for the validation of others. That's wen i feel like people become fake , they want to win everybody's approval . Wen yu kno who yu are as a person yu know another persons opinion of yu isn't needed ..
Posted on December 1, 2010 at 9:11 PM
I would def. agree with the comment Ari Glenn made. You're more real with yourself when you stop worrying about what others think. Their approval isn't needed.
Posted on December 13, 2010 at 9:53 PM
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