ONLY GOD CAN JUDGE ME
A few weeks ago I read an article in Clutch, one of my favorite online magazines, titled "Casting the first stone: Why are people so judgmental?" and I wanted to stand up and clap as if the writer had just performed the words on a stage. Everything she said rang so true to my ears!
In a small sum up the articled talked about how although we all make mistakes, and we KNOW we all make mistakes we still pour our judgments onto others in a blink of an eye. The question was raised why are we so judgmental? The writer Britni Danielle gave us a synopsis of what she believed to be the reason, stating that it's easier in life to see the fault in others than to deal with the fault in your own life. She also goes on to talk about how whenever two individuals have a difference of opinion instead talking about the issue personal characters are attacked. This is a part that stood out to me:
"Don’t get me wrong, I love opinions. Prompting a sincere discussion about a topic is one of the reasons I love to write. There is nothing more fulfilling than learning something new from a reader (or anyone) who took the time to share their point of view. So opinions are not the enemy, we are all entitled to our own. But when expressing our opinions on a particular subject devolves into name-calling and irrational curse-outs, there’s something definitely wrong."
Yes there's something definitely wrong with us, and though we may not realize it, passing judgment is ultimately crippling ourselves. The writer goes on to discuss how the behavior of judging hindered her ability to be vulnerable with the people close to her, to deter them from thinking of her as weak or not as together as she seemed, so that they wouldn't judge her. Something I could closely relate to.
Something that we do so much, almost without thought, is creating the inability to be close to those around us. I experience it everyday unable to let people in because I am seen as a strong person never phased by a setback or hindrance. In actually I would not be human if that was the case.
We often judge out of ignorance and when we haven't gone through something or understand it we can easily make assumptions. The more you experience in life, the more lessons you learn and those lessons should not only apply to what you do but how you think of others in a situation. I mean the saying is a simple as they come "Put yourself in the other persons shoes" no really do it, not the "if it was me" speech but really for once allow yourself to look outside of that which you are and then maybe your perspective would be different entirely. In order to stop judging one another we must first understand one another. Just something to think about.
To Check out the article Click the link below!
Cast the First Stone: why Are We So Judgmental?
In a small sum up the articled talked about how although we all make mistakes, and we KNOW we all make mistakes we still pour our judgments onto others in a blink of an eye. The question was raised why are we so judgmental? The writer Britni Danielle gave us a synopsis of what she believed to be the reason, stating that it's easier in life to see the fault in others than to deal with the fault in your own life. She also goes on to talk about how whenever two individuals have a difference of opinion instead talking about the issue personal characters are attacked. This is a part that stood out to me:
"Don’t get me wrong, I love opinions. Prompting a sincere discussion about a topic is one of the reasons I love to write. There is nothing more fulfilling than learning something new from a reader (or anyone) who took the time to share their point of view. So opinions are not the enemy, we are all entitled to our own. But when expressing our opinions on a particular subject devolves into name-calling and irrational curse-outs, there’s something definitely wrong."
Yes there's something definitely wrong with us, and though we may not realize it, passing judgment is ultimately crippling ourselves. The writer goes on to discuss how the behavior of judging hindered her ability to be vulnerable with the people close to her, to deter them from thinking of her as weak or not as together as she seemed, so that they wouldn't judge her. Something I could closely relate to.
Something that we do so much, almost without thought, is creating the inability to be close to those around us. I experience it everyday unable to let people in because I am seen as a strong person never phased by a setback or hindrance. In actually I would not be human if that was the case.
We often judge out of ignorance and when we haven't gone through something or understand it we can easily make assumptions. The more you experience in life, the more lessons you learn and those lessons should not only apply to what you do but how you think of others in a situation. I mean the saying is a simple as they come "Put yourself in the other persons shoes" no really do it, not the "if it was me" speech but really for once allow yourself to look outside of that which you are and then maybe your perspective would be different entirely. In order to stop judging one another we must first understand one another. Just something to think about.
To Check out the article Click the link below!
Cast the First Stone: why Are We So Judgmental?
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French.... I bet u asking because of grammar mistakes :(
Posted on March 18, 2011 at 4:39 AM
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